In the years since I’ve fully committed my life to the Lord, I’ve had a momentous realization concerning relationships. Most broken relations are likened to the connection or lack there-of with our Heavenly Father. There is so much heartache in the world and I believe that most of it can be traced back to a wound from a relationship that cut deep. Broken relationships are so prevalent that there have been numerous songs for decades about the very topic. Why is is this though? Maybe it’s because we put Godly expectations on others, when we know they can’t possibly live up to that. I did that for years with my father, I put a Godly expectation on him without him knowing. How can someone be what you want when you don’t communicate that to them? How can someone give you something they never learned to give in the first place?

God teaches us about all these things, but if you don’t have a connection to him you can’t know and all relationships will end up the same way. BROKEN!

“God, you’re such a safe and powerful place to find refuge! You’re a proven help in time of trouble- more than enough and always available whenever I need you. So we will never fear even if every structure of support were to crumble away. We will not fear even when the earth quakes and shakes, moving mountains and casting them into the sea.” -Psalm 46:1-2-

For almost all of my life I’ve seen relationships that didn’t work out for one reason or another. Looking back now, I see that God was not in the midst of those couplings and they ultimately fell apart. Love is a word thrown around so easily and thoughtlessly and I thank God that I was for the most part an introvert growing up. I rarely ever used the word love as a kid even towards my family mainly because I did not hear my parents say it too often. As some of you know my mother is a women of God, my father not so much and that was the flaw in their relationship from jump street. They were unequally yolked and that always put them at odds with each other. For my mom she wanted him to fall under the authority of God so he could lead his family properly, and my dad in his defiant nature refused to submit to anyone including including God. These two opposing views cannot coexist, no matter how much we would like it to.

When my mom leaned more into the Lord’s word, there was now a peace about her that my dad just could not understand. The arguments lessened and I noticed. When I asked her why she seems unbothered about things her response was simple and confounding to me at the time: “Bondye sifi pou tout bezwen mwen yo” which means God is enough for all my needs.

“Be strong and courageous, do not be afraid or tremble in dread before them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not fail you or abandon you.” –Deuteronomy 31:6-

Some time ago, a friend of mine got into a huge argument with his girlfriend and some very hurtful things were said. I remember hearing what he said she said to him and it nearly brought me to tears how demeaning some of those things were. In his anger he wanted lash out, but I reminded him that he loved that woman and though he was angry in the moment to not act too hastily. I told him to pray about his situation and to remember who God said he was and no one else. The minute he allowed The Lord to guide his thoughts and actions he began to see a difference in not only how he viewed his own life, but the relationship he chose to remain in. He is now engaged to be married to the same woman he had that blowout with. Now I’m not saying it’s all gumdrops and rainbows, I’m just saying when my friend submitted his relationship to Jesus and they put in the work they were able to reach a new level in the their union. When God is the center in any relationship, it is destined for greatness.

“May the God of endurance and encouragement grant you to live in such harmony with one another, in accord with Christ Jesus, that together you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ”. – Romans 15:5-6-

Any relationship without the love of Christ won’t bare much fruit if any. I’ve been witness to broken relationships, I’ve been in them myself and experiencing both makes the choice easy as to which one I want. God allows for amazing things to spring forth from new and old couplings if you let him. Old broken relationships can be mended and made new with God in the middle and new ones can start with a Kingdom foundation that would prevent a spirit of brokenness from forming at all. Remember God is love!

Thank you For taking time to read this post today, you are and will always be appreciated. God’s love is meant to be experienced in everyday of our lives, but sometimes we allow the world to tell us how to love and that’s where the cracks form in the foundation. We don’t have to be in broken relationships, we can look in scripture to find the blueprint for the kingdom love our heavenly Father has planned for us. The choice is ours to keep seeking after a kingdom love and to keep chasing God’s Way/ve.